Society gives labels to relationships. More often than not, we never really know what it means to fall in love. No one is falling anywhere, no one is hitting the ceiling or the ground for that matter. It is the concerned population around us which labels the relationships we have.
But it’s important for us to know the labels people tag others (and quite often us) with. And for that reason, it is essential that we remain honest about these labels. So here’s a list of honest relationship labels.
Friends with benefits. We all know this. Back in the college days, we were all like ‘Bhai, bahut pyaar-vyaar kar liya. Abhi kuch commitment nehi mangta! Zyaada tension nehi chahiye!’ This is the kind of symbiotic relationship among humans where two people have an agreement (most of the times it’s sex) without any promise of long term commitment. Don’t worry. Someone always ends up breaking the contract and…..the rest is history! 😀
Placeholder Coming out recently from a serious relationship and seeing somebody you don’t feel strongly for. The other person is quite serious about you. But in the bottom of your heart you know it’s not going to work out. Kaafi to load lena parta hai isme…
The Booty Call. When you want no relationship with a person other than physical intimacy. You choose to overlook their wants and expectations from this thing you two are having. A selfish ‘friends with benefits’. You need sex. Baaki duniya jaaye bhaad me!
A rebound. You just broke up and devastated. In your mind, you have crossed seven seas and back. You feel horrible about yourself and at the same time vulnerable. You need someone just to feel better about yourself. It fades away when you realize you are leading someone on particularly nowhere and the relationship was all about making yourself feel good. Love doesn’t bloom in such spaces.
Just friends. The entire world thinks you are dating. They find you two together, sharing jokes and laughing away at the world. Yes, they are jealous and dumbfounded. They don’t understand when both of you claim you aren’t ‘in love’. Well, ‘just friends’ is just that! You are comfortable, very comfortable with your friend, and you share a life together. People crave for such friendships their entire lives. Yet when they see it, they call it a serious committed relationship.
You know, it’s all about being friends. That’s the world’s greatest and sweetest relationship. Walking along the road, how many could you really call your friend? Think about it. A friend is the sweetest gift you could give to yourself, one who would teach us how to love ourselves, scold us when we go wrong and never lose a chance to insult us! Go ahead with one bold step, kiss your best friend, name it nothing. Yes, you can have steaming sex with your best friend, committed to your friendship and not care about the world and not care to label it. Cheers to that! But in the long run, you might see disappointment sooner than you expected.