Well, the spectrum of reactions to PDA is broad. It goes from ‘Get a room guys!’ to ‘Un dono ne kiss kiya. To tere baap ka kya jata hai?‘ Sometimes they gross you out and sometimes you really wish that over brimming passion was in your life. So how much PDA crosses the line? At what point, as Karan says,does Public display of affection becomes Public dikhawa of vulgarity?
Personally, we love watching couples running around in love, being in love, and basking in their love. Cultures vary, minds vary and not everyone is happy seeing you in love, remember that.
Here are some of the PDA etiquettes to follow just so that you aren’t interrupted right when you got your tongue game going.
#1 PDA is personal, even if it’s public. Don’t try showing off!
I had this friend from long back who kissed in public spaces despite his partner shrugging him off. I don’t know why someone would do that. Later I got to know, that he indulged in the behavior because after years of bullying when he finally managed a partner, he had to show off! That’s not just wrong, it’s inhumane.
#2 Don’t be the Rajnikath of PDA.
If someone enters a park after a long day and all they can see is you in a horribly beautiful kiss, it would certainly piss them off! Be the Rajnikanth in love, for PDA try to be the Ghalib. Your affection should not come in someone’s way, I mean literally.
#3 Bachche kya sikhenge tumse!
Well, this is a must to follow. Look, we really don’t know what affects children’s psyche and what doesn’t. Don’t get me wrong. This isn’t about culture. This is just being responsible and not indulging in excessive PDA in front of kids as we really don’t know what can ruin them for life.
#4 Avoid PDA when hanging out with one other friend.
Too much passion scares away friends. This is the only thing about PDA that pisses me off. It’s makes you aware that you are the third wheel. Try not to drive the point home by snuggling and fondling.
#5 Look around, stop when it’s uncomfortable
See, we know it’s impossible to make everyone happy. But when we are in a public space, the least we can do is not make anyone too uncomfortable. It’s the most basic etiquette of sharing public spaces – and the one that we tend to forget in the heat of a moment. We understand your passion and rush to make it up for the lost times. Steamy romance is never a turn off! But it may be for others. So let’s try reeling it in – if you find yourself in a crowd that’s not really appreciative of you being so expressive.
There are no fixed rules to good and bad PDA. Some people get flustered and scandalized at couples holding hands, other don’t even bat an eyelid at a smooching duo – so it’s all about understanding your current scenario – and adapting your behaviour real time. Keep the above points in mind – and you should be good to go.
Listen to this excerpt from Calling Karan to learn more about the dos and don’ts of PDA